Friday, September 2, 2011

Y3W - Evil Social Media

As much as I love social media, just like most of the world now, I have to say there is a little evil part to it. As many of you know, I was married once before. It was not a very amicable split, I was the one who initiated the breakup and worked through a lot of guilt for a very long time to make my peace with that situation. With that being said, I have to say I was quite freaked out on Thursday when I received a message from my ex-husband on Facebook. I was not even sure if I wanted to read the message. I felt a bit violated when that message appeared on my page. I went ahead and opened the message and read it. He wanted to know if I still had photos of him or his family and if so could I mail them to him. I quickly responded and let him know I did not have any. Once I got home that night I shared the message with my husband then deleted it and blocked my ex. 
I often feel like people can be found and stalked too easily on Facebook. Not that I think my ex was stalking me, but since we have one mutual friend from college, I have no idea how long he was looking at the little bit of information he could see on my profile. You just never know who is out there looking at your life through the social media outlets. 

I feel much better that I have him blocked and he should never be able to send me a message or even see if I post on our mutual friend's profile. It has been more than 10 years since I have seen or talked to him and those few typed words rocked me a little this week. It brought up feelings of guilt that I had gotten past a while ago. I am so grateful for a wonderful, supportive and understanding husband now!!

What are Your 3 Words?


  1. Sorry that happened to you. Joining Facebook a couple of years ago helped me reunite with old high school friends and become friends with a few of my cousins. I know things about their lives (I'm counting the good things) that I would never know otherwise. Most days it makes me smile. Oddly my three words would be - Facebook helps me.

  2. On the whole, I think FB is great because I can keep up with friends better but I don't like the fact that people can find me that I really don't want finding me. I guess that is the price we all pay for the social media lifestyle we all live. Thanks for reading!