Remembering....Martin Luther King, Jr.

Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.
Martin Luther King, Jr.

Today I would like to take a moment and remember a wonderful man that changed the face of our nation forever. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. was a man that was not afraid to speak his mind and stand up for what is right in the world. These are two qualities my husband and I are trying to instill in our own son. Dr. King had so much faith that one day all the hate in our country would subside. I try my best to have that much faith. I live every day knowing that I am doing my best to make this world a better place. Everyday I have to take steps without knowing where the staircase is leading me, but I have faith that I live my life in such a way that I am being lead in the right direction.

It hurts my heart to think that there are still people in this great nation that are being oppressed. There are still schools that won't let mixed-race couples go to their prom together. There are still people who judge others by the color of their skin. The majority of our nation is still also trying to tell people who they can and can't marry. As most of you can tell by my posts, I am very liberal and I believe in every word that Dr. King spoke. I am so sad that this wonderful man was taken off this earth before I ever had the chance to hear him preach in person. I can listen to any speech he gave and be inspired and moved, however I know that inspiration would have been taken to a whole other level in person. 

Today I am remembering a man that had a dream that our nation would open it's eyes and see that every person here has something to contribute, every person has a voice that deserves to be heard, every person has the same rights no matter their skin color, economic level, sexual preference or political views. We are ALL Americans and we ALL need to remember how we want to be treated and treat everyone the same way!

Thursday Thoughts...

I don't usually like to come on here and bash others or their lifestyles....BUT...yesterday I was very disturbed by a few blogs I read. They are not blogs I usually read, one was emailed to me by another shocked friend and the others were linked to this blog. The basic topic of these blogs yesterday was....."How women can make themselves more attractive to keep their man happy."  They were talking about how they should not wear what is comfortable to them while in bed because their husband may not find it attractive. And they were not talking about times when they would be having relations with their husband; they were talking about every night sleeping. Another blog was talking about how her husband was making comments about how she does not shave her legs as much anymore and she was going to try harder to make sure her legs were smooth for her husband.

Now I am not a huge Women's Liberation person but I have to page homage to those women who paved the way for me.  I am not trying to say we should all wear horrible clothes to bed and run around with hairy legs, but shouldn't these be things we do for ourselves? When I do great things for myself, like shave my legs, paint my nails or wear cute clothes, it makes me feel cute and sexy and that makes me more attractive to my husband. 

I also think the door has to swing both ways.  Men have to remember to do the same things. They have to remember that when they feel good they look good to us! I think my point is that a couple has to be sure to have mutual respect for the other. Marriage is hard work but has to be done equally on both ends. One person can’t carry the load while the other reaps the rewards. My husband and I have a great balance in our marriage. There are times when one person is having a weak time in life and the other picks up to be the strong one and vice versa. Let’s not revert back to the “Leave it to Beaver” age where the woman was just there to please her husband. That way of life does not benefit anyone in the end.

Respect yourself and others will respect you!!

 

Love Conquers All

I recently went to a memorial service for a friend’s mother. I have known this friend and his mother since High School and she was a lot like a second mom during that time. While I was at the memorial service I found out that her and her husband has met in Middle School and had been together ever since. This seems to be an amazing feat to me in this day and age. I am sure they had good times as well as hard times in their marriage. They had two children, which can’t always be easy on the marriage. I was in awe of the devotion these two people obviously have to each other. Every person who got up to speak about her mentioned how much she loved her husband and how much they were still in love now, after all these years.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband very much and I am completely devoted to him and our marriage. There have been days, not a lot, that I thought, “there is no way we will make it to 10 years.” Learning about my friend’s parents has proved to me that love can conquer all. Marriage is not easy and any married person will agree with that fact. I have to work on my marriage every day. I see now that all this work is worth it. It is wonderful to have a partner in life and I intend to have my husband as my partner in life for the rest of my life. I hope everyone reading this has found the love of your life, if you have, be sure to work hard at keeping it and if you haven't have faith that you will find your love. Love conquers all!